One of the questions I get the most is “How do you do it? How do you find time to write when you work full time and have young kids and…??”
My writing ebbs and flows. I go through what I call “dry spells” where I hardly put a word to the page. This can be weeks, even months. I used to beat myself up about this, ask myself what kind of author I was trying to be if I wasn’t writing every day. And then, in the last year, I learned to accept it.
That’s me. That’s how I write.
So when my writing is flowing, I quite literally “go with the flow.” I bring my notebook with me everywhere. I insist my husband drives us places so I can write. I stay up late, I wake up early, I read on my lunch break so I can write later. I sit in a chair while my kids play with their Lego and I zone into the music playing through my ear buds and just let the pen fly.
Because I know, eventually, the rush of words will slow to a trickle, and then that trickle will disappear as well, and I’m left “high and dry.”
So am I writing all the time? No. Even when I do, I take frequent writing breaks to read to my kids, or walk my dog, or bake (I LOVE to bake!). I am of the belief that the more I live, the more interesting my writing will be.
Yes, I write even while working full time with young kids. But I’ve fallen into a rhythm with my brain and the way I write: I take the times where the words are flowing and I write then, in every moment I can. And when my dry spell hits, which it always, inevitably, does…I hibernate and wait, keeping a notebook nearby for when I pick it up and start to write again.